I am a reluctant blogger. I much prefer face-to-face and one-on-one interactions. I need to hear a person’s tone of voice, notice their posture and hand gestures, sense their hesitation or anxiety. For all of our “communicating” we barely look into each other’s eyes anymore. Eye contact is a form of non-physical touch, and we could all do with more touching in our lives.

I am teaching a class tonight at E-Sensual Woman on the importance of touch and how our earliest experiences of touch profoundly affect our sex lives as adults. As Aline Zoldbrod PhD writes in Sex Smart: How Your Childhood Shaped Your Sexual Life and What To Do About It:

When you are examining your feelings about being a sexual person, you should first notice how you feel about giving and receiving touch. Touching isn’t sexual per se, but touch is the foundation upon which your ability to enjoy sexuality is built; it is vital to loving and to sexual expression. To have skin contact with a partner and to feel the warmth of his (or her) body remains an essential component of many kinds of love relationships.” (p. 15).

As our world becomes more and more gadget-centered, we can’t neglect the importance of touch. Whatever technology we invent that is supposedly going to make “connecting” easier or faster … nothing can replace the power of touch to truly connect us to those we love.

Your homework for today? Reach out and touch someone.