Marriage is a People-Growing Machine
5.24.2009 | Blog, Marriage & Commitment, Quotes
I love this quote by David Schnarch, author of Passionate Marriage:
A good marriage is not smooth, and marriage is not reducible to a set of skills. People have difficulty with intimacy because they’re supposed to. It’s not something to be “solved” and avoided. Problems with sex and intimacy are important to go through because this process changes us. These are the drive wheels and grind stones of intimate relationships. The solution isn’t going back to the passion of early relationships because that’s sex between strangers; it’s about going forward to new passion and intimacy as adults. If we use relationships properly they make us grow into adults, capable of intense intimacy, eroticism, and passion-having sex with our hearts and minds, and not just with our genitals.
Read the full interview.
5.24.2009
When I first read your tweet of the headline I thought “people growing” was a reference to having babies and I was getting all wound up to go _OFF_. *blush* Glad I don’t have to.
5.25.2009
That’s very powerful and simple. Going back to the passion you had when you first met is “sex between strangers.” That’s deep and so very true. Thanks for this.
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