I feel like everywhere you look these days there’s some woman reading 50 Shades of Grey — the woman in the doctor’s office blushing behind her e-reader, the woman on the train earnestly trying to cover her book’s jacket, the woman at the park feverishly flipping through the pages — it’s everywhere. Even if you haven’t read it, you’ve certainly heard about it and have maybe even contemplated reading it. What started out as Twilight Fan Fiction has quickly become a NYTimes Bestseller and an eye-opener to those not so well-versed in the world of BDSM.

If the steamy pages of dom/sub play were a new concept for you and you found yourself excited, you should take heed from Anastasia and Christian’s relationship and repeat after them. Maybe you’re not ready for an elaborate sex room, but you can always build up to that. For now, let’s just start small with some Adam and Eve 50 Shades of Grey inspired sex toys.

First up, the Door Jam Cuffs: These are great to simulate suspension and to give your master complete control over you.

Leather plays a consistent role in 50SoG, so take your punishment in style with the Fashionistas Black Glass Riding Crop. You can whip and be whipped right into submission. Note: the name is misleading, it is made of glass and leather.

Remember that Anastasia wasn’t allowed to touch Christian, so work up the same restraint with the Sex and Mischief Bed Bondage Kit. With all four appendages cuffed, you won’t be able to move or touch anything.

While Christian said he hadn’t collared anyone, it doesn’t mean you can’t. Check out Bound by Diamonds Leash & Collar to really know what being “owned” feels like.

Finally, if you really want to create your own sex room, start by getting the sexy Love Swing‚ a playground for all sorts of deliciousness and domination that will never err on the vanilla side.

However, if you decide to explore the world of BDSM, be sure to talk to your partner beforehand. Set up a safe word and move into it slowly. It can be a little scary if it isn’t done with someone you’re comfortable with, so be sure to wait at least until the 2nd date to whip out your door restraints. I kid, but do be ready to be open with your partner and even more open with your mind.

And, if you don’t have a partner to tease and tempt you, don’t worry, there’s still 50 Shades of Grey, your imagination and an endless sea of vibrating goodness.