Living Sexuality

Awakening a Woman’s Voice

Later this month, I’ll be speaking to a group of addictions counselors about women’s sexuality: Normal sexual development from birth through adult How problems in development affect adult sexual health Connections between substance abuse and sexuality, especially among teens and women Treatment approaches and options When to refer to an appropriate clinician That is a lot to cover in 90 minutes, but [...]

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Q&A With Elissa Stein, Author of FLOW

When I did a series of blog posts about menstruation a few months ago, one of the themes that emerged is that most of us didn’t get a lot of helpful and supportive guidance about menstruation when we needed it. Even now as adults, there is still an element of shame about this most natural process. Elissa [...]

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Mixed Messages or Best Messages

In 2009, the North Carolina legislature passed a bill that requires schools to teach both abstinence and information about contraception. My local paper featured an article with the familiar refrain from a concerned citizen that “talking about both abstinence and contraception sends mixed messages.” I have never understood this reasoning. Don’t we tell our kids not to [...]

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Being in Love

by Chungmi Kim Awakened from a dream, I curl up and turn. The roses on the dresser smile and your words bloom. The red roses for Valentine’s Day. Like in a film thoughts of you unfold moment by moment. I vaguely hear the sound of your spoon scooping cereal the water stream in the shower the buzzing noise of your electric razor like a singing of cicada. Your [...]

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Book Giveaway

I’m a big believer in asking good questions. This new book does that as it gives voice to a variety of experiences people have had growing up in American churches. It’s a necessary conversation to have if we want to move toward a more beautiful and holistic integration of sexuality and spirituality. Find out how to [...]

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Birds of a Feather Flock Together

I am so thrilled to be a part of Magpie Girl’s fabulous soulcare spa, Flock. This “nesting place for restless souls” is chock-full of warm hearts and wise minds. Join Us! Birds of a Feather Flock Together is a post from: Living Sexuality

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Oh, God

I grew up in a fundamentalist church, so I was pretty much obligated to attend youth groups and summer Bible camps. This verse of “Teen for God” by Dar Williams sums up my experiences pretty well: The girls have looks and the girls have rules They came here from their Bible schools They can make you pay attention To [...]

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Make Love Better

Valentine’s Day is quickly approaching, and whether you celebrate enthusiastically, reluctantly, or not at all, it’s that time of year when everyone is talking about romance. While flowers and chocolates are nice, here are three things that will really make a difference in improving your love life. Make Time I know many of you are hesitant to [...]

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Drawn to the Mystery

Abraham Maslow says that self-actualizing people are fascinated by mystery. They do not avoid it in favor of clarity and certainty. This is another feature of personal depth. Mystery honors the incomprehensible depth that resides in every finite reality. We can feel drawn to the mystery of how the world works, to what underlies what [...]

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From Sensory Overload to Sensual Calm

A common complaint I hear from women* is that they’re too caught up in the craziness of daily life to relax and enjoy sex. So they either avoid it whenever possible, or “fulfill their wifely duty” and go through the motions (all the while distracted by the dirty laundry piled up on the floor, the [...]

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